By Kieran Galpin

In the heat of sex, with your body contorted in various acrobatics, amidst the sweating, grunting, all sorts of things tend to spring out of our mouths (if they aren’t full).

But, there is one word that still ranks with the most problematic, and yet, completely satisfying in some cases; “daddy”. Some reading this cringed at the mere mention of the word, while others lept to a new tab and opened Pornhub.

It’s a term we’ve all abused on social media and in response to any male celebrity growing a moustache – but is it as harmless as most of us think?

I was recently chatting to ‘Topldn32’ who was older than me and resembled a rugged lumberjack, think budget Hugh Jackman. He was charming, sexy, and had the sort of body you want to climb like a tree (let’s stick with the lumberjack theme). And the wood he was chopping was more than sufficient.

Each message was dirtier than the last, and before long, I asked a question I instantly regretted.

“Have you got any kinks?”

They were basically a starter pack for dom-tops, of which I was more than used to, but one had me curiously worried.

‘Ageplay’: it’s not strictly sexual – we’ve all seen a grown man in a diaper on Jerry Springer – but has become a staple for many dom/sub relationships. In some cases, like Walmart Wolverine, men take it way too far…

“I want you to play twelve years old,” he said.

Of course, I declined.

This was beyond taboo, it was disgusting. The sexualisation of childlike qualities, and sometimes children themselves, is hugely problematic for obvious reasons. With a third of all sexual offences being committed against minors, this is a genuine threat that faces our society, a danger that should remain untouched by fantasy.

“I do it a lot, so I guess I don’t see why it’s bad?” He continued. Which begs the question… who was OK with his pedophilic ‘preferences’?

While there’s no evidence that he is actually a child molester, the threat is not always in the act. The mentality you take from repeatedly pursuing these fantasies can blur moral lines until you start normalising the behaviour.

Sadly, his mentality is not something I have suddenly come to face, nor is it something I no longer find shocking to be met with on Grindr.

He explained that I was “just his type” which I would later understand was code for able to pass as much younger. This, for me, is dangerous. The moment you want a realistic depiction of youth, you cross the borderline from fantasy into hopeful reality.

He didn’t want me to play twelve, he wanted me to be a realistic twelve. But this wasn’t the first time…

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As a young, naive, gay boy, I found Grindr and was instantly captivated by the sheer number of gay people. I was the only queer person I knew in my small town, so Grindr expanded my world in ways other sites and mediums could not. As my world expanded, I was also experiencing things for the first time without any prior understanding of the norms of my community.

Men who were significantly older than me were the first in my inbox. Proposing grand ideas of age-play and other dirty fantasies they hoped I’d fulfil.

At first look, I thought this was normal, that this is how gay people operated online, and it was nice to get attention nonetheless. However, it wasn’t until years later, after God knows how many aggressive ‘daddies’ pursuing me, that I realised just how sordid those fantasies were.

I have blonde hair, a hairless body, and feminine features, so I fit a visual mould for them – and for Topldn23. As a fem-guy, I often get referred to as “Daddy’s little girl,” which not only sexualises a child/father relationship but also coerces the other person into a role they might not/should not be comfortable with.

This behaviour is beyond toxic, it’s predatory.

As a new-born gay, I enjoyed the attention like every other boy, but men exploited and preyed on this. And still prey on this. There are gay youths out there, coming into their own and looking for community, instead met with unapologetic men with god complexes and predatory language.

Topldn23 now sits in my inbox with a long list of other predators and creepy men who don’t understand the grave dangers and implications of normalising sex with pre-teens.

Furthermore, there’s an intricate link between daddy culture and rape fantasy.

“You want daddy to rape you?” is another perturbed one I often hear before hitting the ‘report’ button.

Rape fantasies are frequently debated since very few people actually fantasise about the actual act of forced intercourse. Instead, most people enjoy the idea of sex being initially unwanted, only to later start to enjoy it.

There is a fine line between fantasy and reality, which many people tend to play on with unwavering confidence; assuming that rough sex and rape are one in the same.

The term “Daddy” is like marmite, some of us love it, and others cannot shift images of our actual fathers from our mind.

But, that isn’t to say that everyone who enjoys the term ‘Daddy’ has a warped sexual mindset. Although daddy culture is complicated and problematic, it’s often attractive to those seeking a sub/dom sexual encounter.

I’ve enjoyed the term in the past, though often in relationships. It can be – let’s face it – harmless to explore with someone you are comfortable with. Hasn’t everyone dreamt about John Stamos or Christopher Meloni spoiling you rotten and rearranging your guts?

The proof is in the pudding after all, or cum in this case. Queer visitors to Pornhub are 277% more likely to search for daddy-related content than straight people, with the most common ages being under 25 and above 60.

What’s important for us – as a community, and humans – is to recognise the disturbing undercurrents associated with it, and holding ourselves and those involved accountable. Stop engaging with men who fetishize young boys, especially those who look younger than the age of consent.

Along with reporting their profiles, we need to have more open discussions about these kinds of danger. Call out predatory behaviour in older men that we let slip past because its ‘none of our business’.

And to the younger generation, know that you don’t have to engage with such behaviour to feel wanted, nor should you rationalise it as normal. This is not normal.

Comfortability and consent are always vital to any sexual encounter and I am still dismantling the brainwashing myself, having had years of attention from the self-proclaimed daddies of Grindr.

I am not saying we should abandon the term altogether, but is it time to abandon daddy/son fantasies, which in-turn harm victims of incest and child abuse?

At the very least we need to be conscious of how we use the term, and more specifically, of those who abuse it.

Words: Kieran Galpin

Sadly, a vast majority of the talent on X Factor don’t get the chance to pursue a career in the music industry afterward. But hey, there’s always porn. 

Just ask Ellis Lacy. 

And it seems he’s not the only one to make the leap. While – as Brits – we’ve not seen much of X-Factor: US, we obviously remember James Tanner. Perhaps more recognized for his rejection (by none other than Miss Britney Jean Spears), which was immortalized through memes. 

James Tanner was only 15 when he appeared on the show, rapping in front of Britney and Will.i.am in the round before Judge’s Houses. Before, Brit informed the hopeful, “You’re going home, sweetie”. 

But apparently home for Tanner was suckling on the teet of a horny MILF. Oh yes, this wasn’t just a softcore venture into the field, but rather he’s made a fair few explicit movies; most involving one or two mature women slurping over his schlong.

Under the pseudonym Matt Sloan… We’ll leave you to conduct your own searches, further than this brooding nude.

And just in case you weren’t sure-sure, here’s his unique half-sleeve in another snap. Although he’s had a hair cut since the Bang Bros days…

Despite this, it seems that James still aspires to have a career in music, as the link in his Instagram promoted some of his music.

See more stars in the buff.

The first-look trailer for Ryan Murphy‘s new TV series Ratched has just been dropped by Netflix. 

Ratched follows the origin story of the sadistic nurse from the 1975 film One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest, played by Sarah Paulson (a Murphy – and personal – fave).

In the trailer, a passive-aggressive Paulson tells a parking valét, “You need to bathe. Your finger nails are dirty”. Sounds like Ellen and her “sensitive nose”. 

The cinematography is exactly what you’d expect from a Murphy feature, although arguably looks like one of his most enthralling series’ to date. (Although that could just be the nostalgia of American Horror Story‘s peak Asylum).

It also appears high-camp, with an acceptable dashing of gore and as always highly-stylized, including other actors that Murphy has hired in the past; Charlie Carver, and Finn Wittrock, along with some new – but familiar – faces; Cynthia Nixon (yas!), Sharon Stone and Judy Davis.

Murphy previously signed a $300 million contract with the streaming service; the highest in history. 

Ratched is out on September 18th

Harry Potter may have loved his time at Hogwart’s and if this is what was going down, we can see why!

We know they encourage their students to practice using their wands but we’re not quite sure this is what they meant.

To be honest, shooting their load is the last magic trick men need. Most of us cum in our pants just at the thought of some hot sex.

And ditch the beard, Galdelf.

If you remember, this isn’t the first time we’ve encountered a naughty Harry Potter…

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An Israeli teenager has been arrested for violently attacking a gay couple in the street – all while hundreds of by-passers looked on. 

It’s reported that police obtained “grim” video footage of the “brawl” which occurred in Jaffa Port, Israel. 

The Arab-Israeli couple were believed to have been targeted after they were spotted kissing in the harbour. 

Itzik Avneri the owner of a tour boat attempted to prevent the attack, by pushing of them into the water.

In a testimony, he explained that during Eid al-Adha – a Muslim holiday – many populate the cruise.

“Two guys got on the boat to go sailing and when it ended, they got off and sat on the dock next to each other. Other people saw them and spat at them.”

When he asked them why they spat, they reportedly replied: “Because we’re Arabs and they’re gays, and there won’t be gays among the Arabs, it gives Arabs a bad name.”

But while Avneri tried to protect them by bringing them to the other side of the fence, that didn’t stop it.

“Two of the gang jumped over the fence and they began to hit and kick them… This violence was just because of the hate. There was no talk between them, all they did was look a little bit different, that’s all.”

“What you don’t see in the video is 500 people, not a single one of them lifted a finger,” he added.

Which is ultimately sad, but also… pathetic. Imagine ONE man could stand in the middle and downsize the attack but 500 people could only gasp and record it on their phones.

Swedish pop star Darin Zanyar came out to his 110k followers this week, telling them he was “proud to be gay”. 

After being catapulted into fame by talent show Idol in 2014, Zanyar has had seven number 1 albums! And decided at 33-years-old, he’s ready to live his truth.  

“Everyone in the world should be able to be proud and accepted for who they are. I know how difficult it can be. Took me a while, but I am proud to be gay”, he wrote in an Instagram caption.

Fans have praised the singer for his bravery, noting that there are no other Kurdish signers who are openly gay, apart from Raaz who came out just days before.

It’s a conversation that most of us have heard at some point or another while doing the gay sex. As if PrEP is the ultimate protection while having intercourse. 

Obviously PrEP is a great invention (?) but we can’t ignore that there’s a plethora of other STI’s that you can catch while on it. 

In this sketch, I parody the PrEP gays because when you’re on PrEP you’re invincible, right?!

Check out the video below and catch my Insta for more!

It can be difficult enough for some os us, just browsing through our social media feeds and seeing the pretty and youthful; reflecting on that which we’re gradually losing to time and gravity. But imagine being constantly naked alongside them…

Steve is a 46-year-old builder from Essex (although you may remember him from his appreances – yes more than one – on UK dating show Naked Attraction) who gets his pole out on OnlyFans as a side-hussle.

He sat down with us to talk about his experience as an older guy in the industry of OnlyFans. Thankfully his encounters with ageism are minimal:

“To be honest, I haven’t experienced too much”, he tells us. “With sex work there’s a market for us all , so I don’t see much of a divide at the moment.” 

“I guess there’s the modeling market where sometimes they are only looking for young fit muscle lads but I break the mould in some respects, because I look very good for my age”.

Enter, evidence A:

He continued, “they are selling products only directed towards the younger guys when clearly I can pull off most clothing and open their market up”.

Confident in his appeal, Steve says “I’m definitely one of best well know daddies out there”.

Thankfully that confidence means Steve doesn’t feel too much pressure when it comes to the competition of younger models.

“I compete in my head to look as good as them in the gym, but that pushes me to do better so it’s a good thing, but my market is different, so my only competition really is myself.” 

He’s also started an organised sex party called Dads4Lads… Wonder if we can turn up and ask for our pocket money.

Watch Steve’s steamy stroke in the hot tub

Orlando Bloom seems to be competing with the likes of Ewan McGregor for the amount of times he can get his naked bod out on camera. 

Not that we’re complaining, obvs.  

From Rotten Tomatoes:

“Orlando Bloom stars as Malky, a demolition worker whose life receives a seismic shock when, out drinking with friends at a local pub, he sees a disturbing figure from his past: the man he holds responsible for a traumatic childhood incident. Fueled by anger, Malky sets out on a path of vengeance–and discovers that no one can escape the consequences of their sins in this taut thriller.”

Actually sounds gooood! And you know what, apparently it is! Receiving a mixture of good to great reviews.

The Hollywood Reporter reviewed: “Bloom delivers a shattering performance in a powerful drama.” Now we’d like to see his hole get shattered. Was that too much? I feel like that was too much.

Bloom has a tendency to pick well-written scripts, so we didn’t expect anything less. Guess his peachy buttocks is just a juicy, juicy bonus.

A former star of Drag Race has tweeted that the cast of Drag Race: All Stars season 6 has already been chosen and are awaiting their flights for filming.

COVID-19 has already impacted Drag Race, with our favourite Emmy-winning drag reality contest serving their first-ever virtual finalé for Season 12 and postponing the filming of Drag Race UK‘s second season.

Meaning that when Canada’s Drag Race finishes, the fandom won’t immediately have a new series of the franchise to binge.

However, according to some tweets from former alum Phi Phi O’Hara (Jaremi Carey), we should still get All Stars 6 on time.

Responding to a tweet which fawned over the idea of Carey revisiting the show for a third stint “when they start letting All Stars 2 queens back on here”, he told the fan he’d “NEVER…EVER” partake again.

“But I know the cast of 6… and… well… [sic]”

Viewers will know that Jujubee and Latrice Royale were both invited back for All stars after competing on the first season.

Carey stopped short of revealing the list, saying he didn’t want to “ruin” for the queens involving.

Adding, “they film shortly. They have to fly out to quarantine them for 2 weeks…”

Well, we personally can’t wait for Drag Race on our screens, it’s the only thing we look forward to watching on a weekly basis!

[H/t: Out]

It’s still difficult for many of us to get away at the moment, whether we’re single-handedly running the office while the rest of the staff are on furlough, or even worst, been made redundant. 

So we’ve come to accept that summer 2020 was mostly a write-off. 

Although, this video has us wanting to book a last-minute holiday to Greece… 

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Public boners can be embarrassing at the best of times, but imagine if the erection was popping up from your forearm. 

That’s what 45-year-old Malcolm MacDonald may be dealing with after losing his own to a blood infection and having a new one built onto his arm by the NHS.

MacDonald from Norfolk, UK, endured a long-term perineum infection which saw his penis turn black before falling off completely in 2014.

According to his interview with The Sun, the father-of-two picked his knob up off the floor and threw it in the bin, when the day came.

“I was beside myself. It was like a horror film. I was in a complete panic.”

Malcolm, who is separated from the mother of his children, hit the bottle as way to cope with his “life falling apart”.

Eventually, his doctor referred him to Professor David Ralph, an expert in phallus construction at London’s University College Hospital.

Doctors used skin grafts from his butt and forearm to construct the new penis, and have even added an extra two inches to his piece. It then took two years to grow fully onto his arm.

When he saw it on his arm for the first Malcolm said he was “proud”.

“After everything I had been through it didn’t feel weird at all – it was just a part of me. I was like any other man, I just couldn’t leave it alone to begin with. I thought it was the best thing ever.”

And so he’s named it Jimmy.

Since then, scheduling mix-ups and transport issues, followed by lack of staff and PPE during COVID-19, meant the surgery has been significantly postponed. But he hopes to have it properly grafted by the end of the year.

“Daddy” is a term that has become increasingly prolific in modern queer culture. The second a guy gains 10lbs, grows facial hair or turns 30, he seems to become a daddy, (or zaddy, depending on which meme page you’re on). 

Keiran Galpin recently wrote about darker implications of the word and its origin, leaving us questioning: should the term be abandoned?

That was the topic of discussion on this week’s Cocktails & Confessions podcast, which hosts Anthony Gilét and Darren weighed-in on, along with a number of C&C listeners.

Both seemed to agree that while they didn’t feel that the word should be explicitly banned (being there are plenty of men who use the term harmlessly), it is worth considering the wider implications – if any – the use of the word has.

Gilét questions, particularly, if the term is harmful to survivors of incest and child abuse.

Although most of the listeners of the show had positive feelings toward the term, (the reactions ‘Hot!’ and ‘Turn-on!’ frequently appeared in the Instagram responses), there were others who opposed it.

“Hate the phrase… Actually makes me feel sick. Never understand it,” wrote one.

While another added, “I’m really neutral towards it… I prefer guys younger than me and it’s usually in their vocabulary, so I just go along with it.”

Concluding the segment, Darren asks, “Do you actually care?”

“Oh, personally… I couldn’t give a shit”, Gilét concluded.

Listen to the full episode here, or on Apple and Spotify.